Tuesday Thoughts And Birds Of A Feather....
Hi Friends, What did you implement? Did you strengthen one of your strengths? Today, I want to remind you that the statement, Birds of a feather flock together, is a very true statement. We like to mingle with people who are LIKE us. Who dress like us. Who talk like us. Who have jobs like us, houses like ours, families like ours... Right? One of the pluses is that we don't have to explain ourselves or our actions and choices because chances are, we are understood. And that feels good. Don’t worry, I am not going to tell you to leave your friends. What I am going to tell is the following: If you want to grow, stretch, reach new goals, personally or in business, you have to add a few new friends to your circle. These new friends think differently, make decisions differently, have different visions for their future, they respond to life differently and act differently all together. For you to SEE what is possible in life, you need to meet, sit down and talk to someone who has achieved what you thought was not possible! For me, it is so interesting to hear these people talk. You know, they talk differently with a new vocabulary. They don't apologize for their opinions. Have you noticed? They know who they are and other people's opinions don’t get to them. They want to uplift you and assure you that your dream is not too big. I have people like that in my life. After a while they become friends. I used to be envious of them, now I use their life as inspiration and motivation for me to keep moving forward. Maybe for you, it’s a certain income level you aspire to or a certain neighborhood you'd like to live in or a relationship you would like to have. Maybe it’s a certain character attribute that appeals to you. Maybe you want to be more generous with your finances. Seek out those circles and be inspired. I am getting good at this. And while I am inspired,I inspire others on the way. Win win. It has been said that if you are the smartest, richest person in the room, you are in the wrong room. I only agree with this statement to a certain degree. What they are saying is, you have to find those smarter and richer than you to LEARN from them. You can also supplement real people with their books and courses. I just started a book I brought home from my brother's apartment by an author I remember him talking about in our conversations. He enjoyed her teachings and metaphors. So now, I am surrounded by her teachings through her book. And I feel connected to my brother. Win win. I believe you need a good foundation of friends, like the ones I described above, where you feel comfortable to spend time with them and hang out and enjoy quality time. You can build on that foundation. You know, like an extra room, where you discover new things and explore people that might not be birds of your feather. You have witnessed this scenario over and over. I saw it at school pick-ups, church gatherings, birthday parties…we just naturally gravitate to those we know and have something in common with. We have this innate human need to belong and anything outside of this comfort zone, outside of this flock, scares us. It makes sense. We have clubs and organizations, cliques, and groups. I am having fun with some FB groups for women in their 40's and 50's.We are in a different phase of life and our kids are grown or almost grown and we need friends in our lives. I went to a local group who just meets one evening a week to watch the sunset. Easy. I can do that. Of course, I wasn't surprised to hear that they also meet over the weekends and have dinners together with spouses because they became a flock of their own. Are you willing to find your flock? Or stretch and find new inspiring friends? Or both? I love hearing from you. It so delights me to hear how my musings have impacted you in some way.
Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.
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Until next time, Isabelle
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