Tuesday Thoughts And Training
Hi Friends, Did you enjoy the kindness poem? You might wonder what Luke Skywalker has to do with anything. Well maybe this choice was heavily influenced by a concert I was gifted tickets to and a podcast I listened to. Yes, I take inspiration from all places. The concert was a big medley of John Williams' music; amongst his most famous pieces are the sound track to Star Wars. It was fabulous, but back to Luke. When he started training under Obi-Wan Kenobi, he was quite unskilled in this art of fighting. He also wasn't joined in a battle with Darth Vader during the first round. His master had to start small. And Luke was quite clumsy at the beginning, to the point where his master put a helmet on him, which caused him not be be able to see, to help him use his inner guidance. I could stay here for a while and digress, but back to the point. Luke started clumsy and in a safe environment. He had time and lots of repetitions before he could be masterful in the following heroic battle scenes that ensued. Let's switch scenes. Let's say you want to grow stronger and work out your muscles. You go to the gym and your coach gives you 400 pound weights to lift. NO! You need to start out with a lot less (I don't go to the gym, but I have two whopping 5 pound weights I use). You start with, let's stay, 20-30 pounds. Then you get stronger and to grow your muscle you need to strain it...with more weight. And you slowly progress until you reach your heaviest weight to lift. To start with that would be detrimental to your body. Kind of like Luke fighting Darth Vader without training. It would have cost him his life. Where am I going with this? We have been talking about being kind to yourself. And that you don't learn overnight, either. You don't make an intention of being kind to yourself before you go to sleep and the next morning you wake up and it's done. It takes time. And repetition. And small steps. And a coach like me to remind you and guide you and help you change your routines, your self talk and your beliefs about yourself. :)
"Much to learn you still have. This is just the beginning."
If you started on your "be kinder to myself" journey, then be proud that you started. Acknowledge that you changed something. Believe that you can keep growing. And commit to one more day.
ABC. Acknowledge - Believe - Commit
It's work and it's worth doing. You can become much better at it. Somehow we are masters at talking down to ourselves and criticizing ourselves and doubting and guilting and shaming for years, even decades. It's never too late to start new. You won't regret it. You will feel better, guaranteed. And when we feel better, we do better and those around us will be glad we put in the work. It seems that this work is much harder than lifting weights. But it will change you from the inside out. It will make a kinder you. A kinder to yourself you. A kinder you who is learning that it is a necessary skill and not selfish at all to shower yourself with kindness.
Let me know how it goes. I am here to help.
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You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time, Isabelle Call or write for a free life coaching consultation #732-331-2246 Isabellestephensoncoach@gmail.com