Hi Friends,
What did you implement last week? Did you take one step forward?
Today, I want to encourage you and myself with this thought:
It's a new day and I can unlearn patterns in my life that are hurting me.
Many of my clients, including myself, can trace a certain circumstance in our lives back to when it happened. I then ask my clients what the dominant feeling is about this very thing that happened.
Most of the time it is guilt or shame or both.
Those are the lowest vibrational feelings our bodies can experience. That's why they feel so heavy.
Why guilt? Here's why:
We have been programmed to feel this feeling since our childhood.
NOT as babies! Babies feel good about themselves, and they are full of love and trust and they have no guilt telling you when they need something! You will hear when they need you, in fact the whole neighborhood will hear it!
And then, slowly but surely, we learn that making mistakes is bad.
That asking for what we need is selfish.
That having a different opinion is being proud.
That when you have a new and different idea, you're full of it.
That when you have a goal for your life, you have to remember your roots and "Don't get too big for your britches."
Add your own to the list.
Have you ever been told that you can't do anything right?
Why are you so clumsy, lazy, forgetful, ...?
Can't you be like your sister/brother?
Who do you think you are?
You are embarrassing me!
You are leaving the house looking like that?
When will you ever learn?
It hurts just writing these out.
Is it any wonder that the beautiful, perfect little baby slowly gets indoctrinated to feel that he or she is doing something wrong? Or worse, that there is something wrong with them?
GUILT.
I see how it erodes your self esteem, your self worth and your self respect. It shows in your beliefs and therefore in your actions. I know this feeling and way of being way too deeply.
For now I just want you to recognize that it is there, and that it feels heavy and yucky.
Please don't stay there. If you felt what I am writing about, please write to me and I will offer you a 20% discount on 4 sessions. It's my mission to help you get to a place where you know how to create new thoughts and new emotions that make you feel better, so you can move forward in your life in a more wholesome way.
There is no life without mistakes. But, we can learn to respond to them differently. We can replace our go to feeling of guilt with something more wholesome.
For example: Life isn't fair!
That's a good start. That's like the white belt in a martial arts program. Did you know the students learn to fall and get back up before they ever do any sparring? They also learn how to PIVOT so they can avoid getting punched. They learn to be aware of their surroundings and they learn to anticipate their opponent's attack. I have witnessed this in a fascinating one on one when my son was a teenager. You could literally hear them think and you felt the tension.
Below is the link to an interview I conducted with my friend Dayel, a 4th degree black belt, on the art of Aikido = avoiding a punch and so much more.
Well, we are all in the dojo of life, and it certainly throws us many punches to the gut. What if we all learned how to expect it? Fall down? And get back up again?
What if our go to feeling wasn't guilt, but one of resilience and peace?
I am working on it. Come join me. I love helping you see life as it is and give you the tools to get back up again!!
The lessons to get to the black belt would include many things; like learning from the failures, putting new beliefs in our brains, setting up goals and mental and emotional strength training to get there. And so much more.
We have one life. Let's learn the right lessons.
Get knocked down.Get back up. Always be a fighter. Don't be afraid of the punch. Don't be afraid of getting back up. Be afraid of giving up.
maria kanellis
PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.
You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time, Isabelle
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