Hi Friends, Last week, as we stepped into Women’s History Month, I wrote about the unforgettable moment when Surya Bonaly landed her famous backflip at the 1998 Winter Olympics. It was a moment that still gives people goosebumps when they watch it today. Surya knew the move would not count for points, and she knew it might even cost her with the judges, but she chose to do it anyway. In that brief moment on the ice, she showed the world something powerful, that sometimes the

Hi Friends, It’s March and Women’s History Month. I will put the spotlight on four ladies starting with a three time Olympian who became famous for something other than a medal. From Olympic Cheers to a Backflip That Defied Expectations There’s something electric about watching the Winter Olympics:  a blend of grace, strength, and moments that leave you cheering at full volume. This year, we celebrated incredible performances, including a giant win for American star Alysa Liu

Hi Friends, Last week we explored the “turning toward” principle from John Gottman: those small, almost invisible moments when someone reaches for us and we either lean in…or look away. The sigh at the end of the day. The casual “Can I tell you something?” The quiet bid for connection that can be so easily missed. Today, I want to build on that with something deeply practical. A communication structure so simple it almost feels too basic. And yet, it has the power to soften d

Hi Friends, “I wish you had been nicer to me today.” The Small Sentence That Reveals the Health of a Relationship Have you seen that social media trend lately? A woman turns on her camera, sits next to her partner, and calmly says: “I wish you had been nicer to me today.” No yelling. No dramatic accusation. No long speech. Just one simple sentence, spoken quietly, almost carefully. And yet, it lands like a wave. It feels heavy, emotional, and strangely familiar—especially to

Hi Friends, Valentine’s Week: 7 Days of Love (That Have Nothing to Do With Roses) Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that can feel sweet and lighthearted for some people, and heavy or complicated for others. It can bring out excitement, but it can also bring out longing. And for many women in midlife, especially those who have experienced divorce, heartbreak, emotional distance in a long marriage, or simply the quiet loneliness that can come even when you’re surrounded

Hi Friends, February tends to ask the same tired question every year: What does love look like? Hearts, flowers, and romantic promises often dominate the conversation. But for many of us in midlife, love has changed shape. It has been tested by long relationships, stretched by sacrifice, and sometimes broken open by endings we never planned. What if this season isn’t about chasing an old version of love—but honoring how our understanding of it has evolved?Here are three ways

Hi Friends, The Five Wishes of the Dying — and What They Ask of Us While We’re Still Living I recently listened to a podcast that I needed to share with you. Not because it was dramatic, but because it was quietly, devastatingly true. The conversation centered around The Five Regrets of the Dying , a book written by Australian palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware, who spent years caring for people in the last weeks of their lives. As she listened, really listened, patterns emer

Hi Friends, Last week I wrote about courage; about standing on the trapeze platform, clipped into a safety belt, heart racing, knowing there was no real danger… and still having to step off.That moment stayed with me.Not because I was brave in some dramatic way, but because courage didn’t look like confidence. It looked like hesitation, a deep breath, and doing the thing anyway. I wasn’t afraid of flying. I was afraid of stepping off the ledge, even with support, even with pe

Hi Friends, Thank you your feed back from last week’s musings. Today is story time:)  Finally Doing the Thing There are things we carry quietly for years.Not big dreams that we announce out loud, but small, persistent longings that tap us on the shoulder every now and then. One day. Someday. When things settle down. Today, I did one of those things. I swung on a trapeze. For years I drove by this place and had a yearning to do it; to swing from that trapeze. This one is a rem

Embracing the Unknown of 2026 As we step into 2026, the unknown is not waiting somewhere far ahead. It’s already here. It always is. We like to believe that if we plan well enough, vision clearly enough, or work hard enough, life will eventually feel predictable. But it doesn’t. Politics shift. Relationships change. Bodies get sick and heal again—or don’t. Babies are born. People we love die. People move closer, others drift away. The unknown isn’t a phase we pass through; it

Hi Friends, I hope you enjoyed last week’s look at old customs. This week, the time between Christmas and New Years, I want to share something with you from my old country. It’s quieter there after Christams. Things close or slow down. My friends businesses literally close for a week and all employees are off.   Zwischen den Jahren — The time in between the years There is a quiet space that exists between what has been and what will be. In German, it’s called Zwischen den Jah

Hi Friends, How did you do with reflecting on the past year?  Today, as I write this, it is winter solstice.   The Longest Night and the Quiet Promise of Light The winter solstice arrives softly. It doesn’t shout. It doesn’t demand attention. It simply marks a pause—the longest night of the year—before the light begins its slow return. Long before calendars and holidays, humans watched the sky and felt this turning point in their bones. Darkness was real then. Cold was real.

Hi Friends, I trust you enjoyed the words of wisdom last week. We usually look back on a year by counting accomplishments, measuring progress, and quietly noting what didn’t work out. But some years refuse to be summarized that way. 2025 may be one of them. Instead of treating it like a report card, what if you looked at it more creatively, more honestly, without trying to make it impressive? One simple way to begin is to describe 2025 in just three words. Not a sentence, not

Hi Friends, I trust you were encouraged with last week’s musings on the Thanksgiving table. How was yours? This week I was inspired by some collected life wisdom, written out in short but powerful sentences. I hope one or more will speak to you.   7 Truths That Quietly Shape a Stronger Life Every season of life teaches us something, especially the ones that stretch us or shake our relationships. Over the years — through motherhood, change, divorce, and reinvention — I’ve lear

Hi Friends, I trust you were challenged to ask your friends and family for the long version of how they are.  We Need Each Other Thanksgiving has a way of shining a spotlight on our connections—sometimes in the best ways, and sometimes in ways that make us want to hide in the pantry with a slice of pumpkin pie. The truth is simple: we need each other , even when relationships feel messy, complicated, or stretched thin. Especially then. As humans, we don’t thrive in isolation.

Hi Friends, I trust you enjoyed learning about your impact in last week’s blog. Today I want to write about something so common, so every day, and of course, I'm giving it a twist.  The Long Version, Please “How are you?”It’s one of the most common questions in daily life—yet most people expect the one-word answer: good , fine , busy . But I’ve reached a point in my life where I genuinely want the long version. I want the real answer… the one that tells me where your heart is

Hi Friends,I trust you were encouraged by last week’s thoughts on rest versus retreat. This week I want to focus on your impact, yes, yours.  The Impact of a Pebble When we think of impact, our minds often go to the big names — the women who changed the world on a grand scale. Take Oprah Winfrey , for example. Born into poverty in rural Mississippi, she built her life from hardship into one of the most influential careers in modern history. Through her talk show, interviews,

Hi Friends, I trust you were challenged by last week’s release exercise. The offer still stands to have me help you through the exercise for free.    Rest, But Not Retreat We’ve all been told to push through. To keep going, stay strong, and not let life “get the best of us.” We have been caught in the boss babe era. And we needed that. It was a stepping stone to where we are now; in a softer, more aligned place. A place that allows for more femininity. Here’s the truth: somet

Hi Friends, I trust you were inspired with last week’s post on retirement.  You Don’t Need Years to Get Over Someone We’ve all heard it: “Time heals all wounds.” But what if that’s not entirely true? What if you don’t need years to get over someone… What if you just need one moment of emotional truth?Because heartbreak doesn’t live in your mind alone— it lives in your body as well. It’s not logical, it’s biological. It’s not something you think your way out of, it’s something

Hi Friends, I trust you enjoyed last week’s writing on make believe.This week, we are talking about something very real, and something that everyone will be faced with.   Why “Retirement” Might Be the Worst Word Ever Invented Your “Second Calling” Could Be the Best Chapter Yet I’ve been reflecting lately on how our culture treats aging — almost as if it’s something to be feared or endured, rather than embraced and lived fully. We spend so much of our lives planning for “retir