Tuesday Thoughts And the power Of words

Isabelle
6 days ago
4 min read

Hi Friends,

I trust you enjoyed last week’s writing on connecting with your softness.

The Power of Words: Rewriting Our Story From the Inside Out

“When we deny our stories, they define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending.”— Michelle Obama

There are moments in life that break something open in us. For me, one of those moments happened on a beach. The day my ex brought up the word divorce, I felt so shaken up and heavy. Even though things had been unraveling for years, hearing that word out loud cracked open the reality I had been trying so hard to fix, hide, soften, or spiritualize.

I like to ground myself at the beach. It calms my nervous system, listening to the waves and being far away from the crowds. That walk on the beach became more than just a walk. It became a reset. An intentional reset. A re-grounding. A return to myself.

I stood in the wind, feet in the sand, heart in my throat—and recorded these words into my phone:

“I am important. I count. I take care of myself. I give myself love and joy. I give others the freedom to be who they are. We are all safe and free.”

I can still hear the wind in that recording. It wasn’t just a soothing mantra. That was truth I wanted to believe, truth I was choosing to believe. I wasn’t there yet—but I was done telling the old story.

For decades, I had tried to make my marriage work. I told myself things like “It’s going to get better” or “He had a rough childhood” or “We will get a breakthrough.” I tried and tried in the name of keeping the peace, and I stayed in the role of the good wife, the fixer, the forgiver, the cheerleader.

But the truth was—I was denying my story. And when we deny our stories, as Michelle Obama so powerfully said, they define us.

It took me years—decades, really—to finally own my story.To say:“This isn’t working, and it hasn’t been for a long time.”“I deserve more.”“I get to choose what the rest of my life looks like.”

That shift, in coaching terms, is moving from victim energy to creator energy. It’s not about blame. It’s about responsibility. It’s about owning what’s true, even if it’s painful—so we can finally begin to write a new ending.

Why Words Matter

Words are not just sounds. They are reality shifters…They shape our identity, beliefs, and behavior. They become the track our mind runs on when life throws us into the dark.

I didn’t just say those affirmations once—I recorded them in my own voice. I listened to them again and again. I trained my nervous system to feel safe in new words. To shift out of fear, resentment, or despair, and into intention, compassion, and creation.

Because here’s the truth:

If we don’t choose our words, our old wounds will choose them for us.

Real-World Proof: Words That Moved a Nation

One of the most powerful examples of how words can shape a story on a global scale came from Ukraine’s President Volodymyr Zelenskyy. When Russia invaded and the U.S. offered to evacuate him, he said:

“I need ammunition, not a ride.”

That one sentence inspired a country, shifted global perception, and reminded the world what courage sounds like. His words didn’t just communicate resolve—they redefined his role in history. Language shapes identity. Whether you’re leading a nation or leading yourself out of a painful chapter, your words matter.

Create a New Story—On Purpose

It’s easy to underestimate how much power we have to rewrite the narrative inside our own minds.

I used to think my voice didn’t matter.Now I know it’s the first voice I need to hear. I still listen to that beach recording sometimes—not because I’m broken and need fixing, but because I’m worthy of staying aligned with who I really am.

If you know someone who needs this kind of change in their life please forward this to them or direct them to my fb group, healing after divorce.

So here’s an affirmation for you—one that helped me begin again:

My words are powerful.

Isabelle

Say it. Record it. Speak it on a walk. Write it on your mirror. Whatever it takes to drown out the lies and invite in the truth.

Final Thoughts

We can’t change the past. But we can change the story we tell about it. And when we do that, we change our future.

You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are the author of what comes next. And your words? They are the pen. So speak life.Speak truth. Speak possibility.

You are important. You count. You take care of yourself. You give yourself love and joy. You give others the freedom to be who they are. We are all safe and free.

Let that be the new story.

PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.

You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.