Hi Friends, What did you implement from last week? Did you contemplate what you allow in your life?
Today is Valentine's Day. I want to write to all the women I coach and meet who don't have a Valentine.
A best friend, a spouse, a partner.
Who is your best friend?
What if I told you that it could be you?
Yes, indeed. it could be you.
Here's why!
It starts with you. Always. Your own words about yourself are super powerful. Are you aware of how you talk to yourself?
There are three people in the picture above. Celebrating.
What if that is you? Your old self? And your future self?
How do you talk about your past self?
About your present self?
About your future self? You beat yourself up over past mistakes and failures. You beat yourself up about your current situation. You worry about the future and give yourself dim outcomes. And all that creates who you are in the future.
It’s all yours. If you want something for yourself or your life, you can create it in your future if you’re willing to do what’s required. Even if you’ve never done it before. Even if it’s the opposite of who you’ve been in the past. It's possible.
It takes work to change. It takes work to change your self talk to become your best friend.
Instead, we use a lot of energy contemplating and getting stuck in the past. We start reflecting on the things that went wrong. The things we messed up. If you find yourself in resentment, blame or disappointment about your life, I’m the last one to tell you something is wrong with you or that you shouldn’t do that.
I just want you to ask yourself if there is an upside to your situation. If it makes up for the past in some way. If it changes your outlook about something that "should have been different."
And if not, then let’s focus on creating the future you want instead.
It takes work to reframe and use a different perspective. It takes work to change your self talk. It takes work to see yourself in a different light.
So what if, today, on Valentine's Day, I ask you to become your own best friend?
Even if you have a bestie, a partner or a spouse, if you strive to be your own best friend, the relationship will only be enriched. You will show up so much more fulfilled, so much happier, so much more confident. And that in itself will make any relationship better.
I can help you find ways to become your best friend and to be kinder to your past self and to use your future self to motivate you.
Are you ready?
Message me.
PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward becoming your best friend.
PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.
You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time,
Isabelle
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