Tuesday Thoughts And You Were Never Meant To Be Her

 

Hi Friends,

The Woman Who Never Existed

Have you ever caught yourself wishing you had someone else's eyes? Or admired another woman's thick hair, toned arms, radiant smile, or effortless style? We rarely compare ourselves to just one person. Instead, we collect little pieces from many women and somehow expect ourselves to become all of them.It turns out this isn't a new habit.

There's an ancient story about the Greek artist, Zeuxis, who was commissioned to paint Helen of Troy, the woman said to be the most beautiful in the world. As the story goes, he searched for the perfect model but couldn't find one. Instead, he invited several women and chose the most beautiful feature from each; one woman's eyes, another's hair, another's graceful posture, another's smile. He combined them into one painting.Think about that for a moment.

The world's most beautiful woman wasn't modeled after one real woman at all. She was created from the best parts of several women. And yet, thousands of years later, we're still chasing her.Today, we may not be standing in an artist's studio, but we carry a similar picture in our minds. We admire one woman's confidence, another's figure, someone else's flawless skin, another's fashion sense, and someone else's successful career. Without even realizing it, we piece together an impossible image of who we think we should be.

No wonder so many women feel like they don't measure up. We're comparing ourselves to a person who doesn't actually exist. Social media has only made this easier. With every scroll, we see another beautiful face, another perfect vacation, another organized home, another successful business, another happy marriage. Our minds quietly gather all those "best parts" and create a standard that no single human being could ever live up to.I've caught myself doing it too. Maybe you've looked at one woman and admired her energy, another for her creativity, someone else for her calm spirit, and another for how naturally she seems to connect with people. Before long, you're no longer comparing yourself to one person. You're comparing yourself to dozens.

That isn't fair.Because while you're busy wishing you had someone else's gifts, someone else may be looking at you and admiring yours. Maybe it's your kindness that makes people feel welcome. Maybe it's your resilience after everything you've been through. Maybe it's your laugh that brightens a room, your creativity that inspires others, or your ability to listen without judgment. Those are beautiful features too.

As women in midlife, we've spent enough years believing we're somehow missing the one thing that would finally make us enough. The truth is, we've been enough all along. We were simply measuring ourselves against a masterpiece that was never real.What if we stopped collecting everyone else's best parts? What if we started noticing our own? Instead of asking, "Why don't I look like her?" maybe we could ask, "What is uniquely beautiful about me?"Because beauty was never meant to be found in one perfect woman.It was always meant to be scattered among many.And one of those beautiful pieces belongs to you.

I need to end with a funny story: The other day my grand baby, 2.5 years old, who has two aunts who are expecting a baby, is asking every woman who has a belly (or not), if she is having a baby. So I was asked as well :) and I just answered, "No, it’s just nice and squishy".

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You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.

Until next time,

Isabelle

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