hope you are well. Today i want to share a quick tip to enhance your relationship with your spouse, partner Fiance or boy/girlfriend.
Often I hear " I Just want to feel connected" . Right? I know that feeling. It's one that can leave you feeling empty and longing. and if we don't watch it it can turn into resentment. I'm not going down that road today. Most likely you know what I'm talking about.
If you are not in the habit of going out on dates, it's time to start. This week. A date does not have to be expensive or time consuming. The following tip can easily be used during a walk or just sitting on the porch while sipping a glass of ice tea, or water with lemon in my case.
Be aware that there is NO reference to anything negative that happened that week. There is time for that. Not during this date.
Here is the magic phrase:
"I felt loved this week when ...."
And fill in the blank. Maybe it was when you received a phone call, just because he was thinking about you. Maybe it was when she smiled at you across the room, just like when you were dating. Maybe he held you tight when you were nervous about the job interview. She didn't nag you. He took care of the baby during the night. She sat and listened to you venting about work problems.he went for a walk with you. She rubbed your tight shoulders. he said "Have fun at girl's night out" and meant it. She brought up something touchy without blame. He made her a cup of coffee. And there are a million more.
I hope you see from the examples that there are many every day "little" gestures of love and connecting that we miss if our focus is not right.
It is not easy to put on the appreciation glasses if your eyes are used to the complaining glasses.
I have to remind myself too, to pick the pair that focuses on the good. Hey , wouldn't it be cool if there actually were glasses that did that for us ? We put them on and we automatically focus on the good in our partner?
Well, until then, we just have to train our brain. It always comes back to that, doesn't it?
P.S. Write to me to schedule a free consult, so we can get you started on connecting more with your partner.
You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time,
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