Tuesday thoughts and All Moms

Isabelle
May 12
3 min read

Hi Friends,

This week I want to share some thoughts about moms. Mother’s Day can bring up so many emotions, especially in midlife. For some women, it is a day filled with laughter, phone calls, flowers, and crowded tables. For others, it can feel quieter, more complicated, or even lonely. I think it is important to remember that motherhood comes in many forms, and every version of it deserves to be seen.

Some women are mothers to biological children. Some stepped into the role later in life as stepmothers, loving children they did not give birth to but still worried about, cared for, and showed up for. Some women mentor younger people, becoming the safe place, the encourager, the steady voice that someone desperately needed. Mothering is not only biology. It is nurturing, guiding, worrying, forgiving, hoping, and loving deeply.

And then there is the reality of parenting adult children, something not talked about nearly enough. When our children are little, motherhood is physically exhausting. But when they become adults, it can become emotionally stretching in entirely different ways. We realize we can no longer protect them from heartbreak, poor decisions, disappointment, or loss. We watch them build lives of their own, and sometimes that is beautiful and sometimes it hurts more than we expected.

Some adult children call often, share everything, and still want advice. Others are private, independent, or distant, leaving us wondering if we did something wrong when often we did not. Some children are thriving in careers, relationships, and purpose. Others are struggling, lost, anxious, stuck, or trying to find their way.

A mother’s heart does not stop worrying simply because her children are grown. In many ways, the worrying grows deeper because we know life now has real consequences for them.

I know for myself, there are things I have had to apologize for over the years. Moments I handled poorly, times I was too stressed, too emotional, too controlling, or simply got it wrong. I think most honest mothers can say the same. We are human beings raising human beings, and sometimes we learn right alongside our children. But alongside those mistakes, I also know we shared so much joy. There are memories that still warm my heart.

Motherhood is rarely perfect, but it can still be deeply beautiful.

There is also something humbling about realizing our children are their own people. They may not live the lives we imagined for them. They may choose differently than we would. They may move far away emotionally or physically. Part of motherhood in this season is learning to love without controlling, to support without rescuing, and to trust that growth often comes through struggle.

I also want to say this gently to the mothers who carry quiet grief on Mother’s Day. The mothers who feel unseen. The stepmothers who gave their hearts but do not always receive acknowledgment. The mothers navigating strained relationships. The women whose children are struggling. The women who mother everyone around them while wondering who takes care of them. Your love still mattered. Your effort mattered. The countless invisible moments mattered.

And to the women who have become wiser, softer, stronger, and more compassionate through motherhood, even when it broke their hearts at times, there is something deeply beautiful about that too.

This Mother’s Day, maybe the invitation is not to look for perfection in our families or in ourselves. Maybe it is simply to honor the love we have given, the lessons we are still learning, and the courage it takes to keep our hearts open through all the changing seasons of motherhood.

This weeks's affirmation:

I honor the love I have given and the mistakes I have learned from them.

Isabelle

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You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.

Until next time,

Isabelle