Tuesday Thoughts And If Love feels Unsafe

Isabelle
Sep 9, 2025
2 min read

Hi friends,

I trust last week's topic on Menopause was refreshing to you. As always, thank you for your kind feedback. It sure makes my day!

Sometimes we forget that starting over doesn’t mean starting from scratch—it means starting from experience. Fear often tries to hold us back: fear of being alone, of not finding love again, of what people might think. But those fears are rooted in stories that aren’t even true. They’re not the truth of who you are or what’s possible for you.

I’ve learned that joy, safety, and peace don’t magically appear when someone else comes into our lives. They begin within us. When we’re grounded in our own sense of worth and happiness, the right partner will only add to it—not complete it. That shift changes everything.

Sometimes, though, old wounds get in the way. If asking for what you need feels like you’re “too much,” it might be your inner child still carrying the fear of being abandoned. That doesn’t mean you’re broken—it just means there’s a part of you waiting to be heard, seen, and healed.

And if love feels unsafe, chances are that belief didn’t come from your last relationship at all. Often, it traces back much earlier—maybe even childhood—where we first learned to connect love with rejection or abandonment. The good news is, once you recognize that pattern, you can rewire it. You can choose a new story.

It’s also important to remember that people who can’t face their own pain will sometimes try to dismiss yours. It’s not a reflection of your worth—it’s about their own disconnection from themselves. That’s why the journey always starts with you. Getting comfortable with your own vulnerability allows you to create deeper emotional intimacy with others. When you know and trust yourself, you stop chasing validation from people who can’t give it.

Healing isn’t about time passing—it’s about doing the work to reprogram the beliefs and patterns that have been running in the background for years. You’re not stuck with those loops. You can break them. And you can start again, as many times as you need. Each rewrite of your story is proof of your resilience.

Divorce, heartbreak, or whatever ending you’ve faced—it’s not the end of your story. It’s a beginning. And you get to decide where it goes from here.

Big thanks to Joanna Nisioto, the Come Back Coach, for sparking this reflection with her Instagram post. Her words were the reminder I needed, and maybe they’re the reminder you needed too.

Affirmation:

“I am worthy of love, joy, and peace.”

Action Point:

Take five quiet minutes today to write down one old belief about love or worthiness that you’re ready to let go of—and then write the new belief you want to step into instead. Keep it somewhere you can see daily.

Write to me for help if you're struggling with this.

PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.

You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.