Tuesday Thoughts and Letting Go Without Loosing Connection

Isabelle
Aug 26, 2025
3 min read

Hi Friends,

I trust you found the post on communication styles helpful.Today I want to focus on the back to school time, for midlife moms.

Letting Go Without Losing Connection: Staying Close to Your Kids While Healing After Divorce

The start of a new school year always brings mixed emotions. For moms, it can feel like a deep breath of relief—schedules return, the house feels more orderly, and more quiet—but it can also stir up feelings of emptiness. When your children are teenagers or heading off to college, that bittersweet tug is even stronger.

And if you’ve walked through the pain of divorce, these transitions can hit differently. You might feel uncertain about your relationship with your kids. Maybe there’s distance, misunderstandings, or even broken ties that you long to heal. Here’s the good news: letting go doesn’t have to mean losing connection, and broken bonds can be mended with time, intention, and love.

Letting Go with Love

As our children grow older, we’re invited to loosen our grip—not because we love them less, but because we’re learning to love them in new ways. Letting go means giving them space to become who they are while staying open and emotionally available.

Some simple practices that help:

Offer encouragement freely: Send a quick “thinking of you” text or a note slipped into their backpack. Don’t expect a reply—just let it be love sent out.
Create rituals of connection: A weekly coffee date, a Sunday phone call, or care packages sent to college can remind them that your love is steady.
Listen more than you fix. When they share struggles, resist the urge to solve everything. Sometimes they just need you to hear them and remind them they’re not alone.

Healing Broken Ties After Divorce

Divorce often brings ripple effects into the parent–child relationship. Kids may feel caught in the middle, pulled by loyalty, or simply unsure of how to connect in this new family structure. If your relationship feels strained, it doesn’t mean the story is over. Healing is always possible.

Some steps toward rebuilding trust and connection:

Acknowledge the hurt: Even a simple, “I know this has been hard on you, and I’m sorry,” goes a long way. Kids don’t need a perfect parent—they need a parent who’s willing to be real.
Stay consistent: Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Show up reliably, even when they pull away. Your steadiness is what rebuilds safety.
Build small bridges: Instead of forcing big conversations, look for little ways to connect—shared meals, watching a show together, asking for their opinion on something that matters to you.

Modeling Growth

One of the most powerful gifts you can give your children is showing them what healing looks like. When they see you choosing forgiveness, practicing patience, and pursuing your own growth, they learn resilience by watching you. You’re not just their mom—you’re also their model of how to walk through hard seasons with grace and hope.______________________________________

A New Chapter for Both of You

This school year, as your kids step into new classrooms, dorm rooms, or stages of independence, let it also be the start of something new for you. A season of letting go with love, healing what has been broken, and choosing connection over fear.

Remember: letting go doesn’t mean losing love. Even when ties feel strained, there is always a path back to each other—one small step at a time.

This weeks affirmation:

“Even in transition, my bond with my child can grow stronger.”

Isabelle

What’s one small act of love you can offer your child this week, without expectation, just to keep the door of connection open?

PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you..

You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.

Until next time,