Tuesday Thoughts And Life After Divorce
- Isabelle
- Jul 1
- 3 min read
Hi Friends,
I trust you are finding your story-worthy moment every day! Today, let's talk about post-divorce a little. There is so much to cover, so I am just sratching the surface here.
Divorced but Not Broken: How to Rebuild Trust in Yourself and Life Again
Divorce can feel like your entire life has been split into two chapters: before and after.
You may still be going through the motions—taking care of the kids, showing up for work, doing what needs to be done—but inside, it’s different. You might feel raw, disoriented, or unsure of who you even are without the relationship that shaped so much of your life.
If that’s where you are right now, I want to gently remind you of something important:
You are not broken. You are becoming.
Yes, this season is painful.
Yes, it’s confusing and heavy.
And no, you don’t need to have it all figured out today.
A Glimpse Into Her Thoughts:
“I never imagined I’d be here—starting over, again.
I poured my heart into that relationship. I gave it everything I had.
How did it still fall apart?
Some days I feel strong, like I can handle this.
Other days, I miss the version of me that believed in forever.
I wonder… can I really trust myself again?
Will life ever feel stable, or joyful, or safe?”
Yes. It can. And yes—you can trust yourself again.
Acknowledge What You’ve Lost
Divorce is not just the loss of a partner. It’s the loss of routines, shared goals, identity, and the future you once dreamed of.
That grief is real. It’s deep. And it deserves space.
You don’t have to pretend you’re okay. You don’t have to rush into being “fine.”
Healing begins when you honor what was—so you can begin to imagine what could be.
Rebuilding Trust Starts in the Smallest Moments
When your world feels uncertain, it’s easy to second-guess every decision.
Start rebuilding by making small, gentle promises to yourself—and keeping them.
Take a short walk to clear your mind, even if it’s just ten minutes.
Write a few honest lines in a journal before bed.
Call a friend instead of sitting with the loneliness in silence.
These small choices are not insignificant.
They’re the bricks that will form your new foundation.
You Get to Choose What Comes Next
One of the quiet gifts of divorce—though it may not feel like a gift right away—is the invitation to choose again. You are no longer living through someone else’s story. This next chapter is yours.
So ask yourself gently:
Who am I becoming now?
What kind of love do I want to experience—starting with how I love myself?
What lights me up, now that I have space to explore?
This isn’t about “moving on.” It’s about moving inward—toward clarity, confidence, and connection with your own life.
You Are Allowed to Be New
There’s no timeline. No checklist. No right or wrong way to heal.
But what you are absolutely allowed to do—right now—is start again.
Start gently. Start with grace. Start with one choice at a time.
Let this be the season where you come home to yourself. Where you rediscover your worth.
Where you begin to trust your voice, your instincts, and your dreams—just a little more each day.
You are not broken.
You are becoming something strong, beautiful, and deeply whole.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
If this spoke to something in your heart, I want you to know there’s a place for you.
A space where women like you gather—not to fix each other, but to walk beside each other through the messy, sacred middle.
You’re warmly invited to join Midlife-my Life: Healing & Thriving after Divorce, a supportive community for women over 40 who are navigating big life transitions like divorce, empty nests, or rediscovering who they are now.
Come be part of a circle that gets it. That sees you. That welcomes you.
You’re not behind. You’re not alone.
You’re exactly where you need to be.
PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.
You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.
Until next time,
Isabelle
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