Tuesday Thoughts And Re-mothering

Isabelle
May 13
4 min read

Hi Friends,

Sunday was Mother's Day and many of you are mothers. How did it go? Did you have realistic expectations?

This week I want to turn inward. I have written about the different emotions we all feel, and that some experience grief and sadness, and others joy and warmth. So, here we go with a topic I am just learning to implement. For those who don't know, I lost my mom when I was 6 years old. So this topic is very real in my life.

Re-Mothering Yourself: A Midlife Mother's Day Reflection

Mother’s Day stirs up all kinds of emotions for women—joy, grief, pride, regret, gratitude, loneliness. For years, many of us have spent this day in service to others: preparing brunches, being celebrated by little hands with handmade cards, or mourning what we’ve lost. Some feel seen and loved; others feel invisible and forgotten.

But what if this Mother’s Day, you turned the spotlight inward?

What if you paused—not to reflect on what kind of mother you’ve been to others—but to ask what kind of mother you are to yourself now?

Midlife is an invitation to re-mother yourself. It’s a call to tend to the parts of you that were overlooked, silenced, or sacrificed during decades of caregiving. You are still worthy of tenderness. You are still worthy of being held, heard, and healed.

This is your time.

Let’s talk about what it means to mother yourself—especially now, in the quiet after the chaos, when the house has grown still and your soul is asking, “What about me?”

The Four Foundations of Re-Mothering Yourself in Midlife

1. Offering Yourself the Tenderness You Once Gave So Freely

As mothers, we spent years kissing scraped knees, sitting up through fevers, listening to fears whispered in the dark. We knew how to soothe, to calm, to love without conditions. But somewhere along the way, we stopped offering that same tenderness to ourselves.

Re-mothering begins with turning that instinct inward.

What would it look like to speak to yourself the way you spoke to your child after a hard day at school? Can you whisper, “You did your best today,” when you feel like a failure? Can you let yourself rest without guilt, just as you insisted your child nap when they were worn out?

This is not indulgence. This is restoration.

You were never meant to be everyone else’s safe place while leaving yourself out in the cold.

2. Releasing Guilt and Perfectionism

No one gets out of motherhood without regrets. We’ve all lost our temper. We’ve all said things we wish we hadn’t. But perfection was never the goal—connection was.

Still, guilt clings tightly, especially when our children grow up and we start looking back. We question: Did I do enough? Was I enough?

Re-mothering yourself means putting down the measuring stick. It means refusing to let your past self sit on a witness stand in your mind. You did the best you could with what you knew and had at the time. That counts. That matters.

You are allowed to grow, to forgive yourself, and to move forward with gentleness.

3. Honoring the Woman You Are Becoming

Midlife is not a crisis—it’s a crossroads. And every crossroads is sacred.

As you release old roles and rhythms, you’re not becoming less of yourself—you’re becoming more. But the world doesn’t always give you language for this. It tells you to hold onto youth, to mourn your children’s growing up, to fade into the background.

But what if you honored this new season with the reverence it deserves?

You are not past your prime. You are in a new prime.

Re-mothering means cheering for this version of you like you once clapped for your toddler taking her first steps. She’s learning too. She’s allowed to wobble. She’s allowed to reinvent.

4. Learning to Direct Care Inward, Not Just Outward

Many women in midlife feel lost—not because they lack purpose, but because all their energy has gone outward for so long. Children, partners, aging parents… everyone else came first. And now that you have space, it can feel disorienting.

The shift from caretaker of others to caretaker of self is unfamiliar but necessary.

Re-mothering isn’t selfish—it’s sacred. It’s waking up to your own needs, desires, and dreams and tending to them like a garden. It’s learning to say “yes” to what nourishes you and “no” to what drains you. It’s letting yourself matter again.

This week's Affirmation:

I give myself the love, grace, and compassion I so freely give to others. I am worthy of my own care. I mother myself with tenderness, truth, and trust.

Isabelle

This Mother’s Day, may you pause long enough to feel your own heartbeat. To recognize how far you’ve come—not just as a mother to others, but as a woman reclaiming herself. Re-mothering isn’t about fixing what’s broken; it’s about returning to the truth that you’ve always been worthy of love—especially your own.

You are not too late. You are right on time.

PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.

You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.