Tuesday Thoughts And release

Isabelle
58 minutes ago
4 min read

Hi Friends,

I trust you were inspired with last week’s post on retirement.

You Don’t Need Years to Get Over Someone

We’ve all heard it: “Time heals all wounds.” But what if that’s not entirely true? What if you don’t need years to get over someone… What if you just need one moment of emotional truth?Because heartbreak doesn’t live in your mind alone— it lives in your body as well. It’s not logical, it’s biological. It’s not something you think your way out of, it’s something your body must release. And until you rewire that emotional memory, your body keeps mistaking longing for love.

It usually starts the same way. You think about them, their face, their voice, the way they used to laugh, or be angry, the way they spoke or were silent. And before you know it, your body remembers. You feel the ache in your chest, the tightness in your throat, the rush of warmth that makes you miss them even though you know better. That’s not love resurfacing, that’s your nervous system replaying a memory it hasn’t yet released.

One woman I know, let’s call her Suzy, told her friend over coffee, “I should be over this by now.” She sighed deeply, in pain and frustration. Her friend nodded, quietly stirring her cup, then said, “Maybe you’re not missing him. Maybe you’re missing who you thought he was.”

That landed hard. Suzy froze for a moment, her hand tightening around the mug. Who I thought he was… And suddenly, it hit her. She wasn’t longing for the person who had dismissed her feelings, ignored her needs, or slowly pulled away. She was missing the version of him she hoped he could be. The dream. The potential that never came true.

The Emotional Rewiring Exercise

( inspired by Irene Fotland)

Here’s a truth I am learning. Healing doesn’t always come from journaling or therapy (though those help). I like to include simple tools into my coaching. Some clients had a therapist and me, as a coach, simultaneously. And it worked beautifully. So sometimes, you need to add a simple, raw exercise that speaks directly to your body, the part of you that still remembers what your mind tries to forget.

Try this if you are ready. It’s powerful, it’s emotional, and it can shift something deep inside you. But be gentle with yourself, because this might be simple, but it’s not easy. Read through it and if you need help with it, write to me, and I will guide you through it for FREE. No strings attached.

1. Close your eyes. Picture them vividly.Their face. Their tone of voice. Their scent. The little gestures you once loved.Let the image rise, don’t push it away. You’re not feeding a fantasy; you’re gathering emotional data.

Now, shift the image. See them as they were at the end. Not at the beginning. Not in the highlight reel your brain keeps replaying.

See them in the argument. See the distance in their eyes. The silence that spoke louder than words. See the moment they stopped trying. Remember the phone call you didn’t receive when you needed it. The time they didn't come home and didn't even check on you when you were sick. The demeaning joke that was only funny to them. See the disengagement they showed towards your children.

See it, feel it, hear it.

See the truth your heart didn’t want to admit. That’s the truth your mind keeps romanticizing away: the truth that sets you free.

2. Bring that version of them close. It’s okay if this part makes you uncomfortable. It means you’re getting close to the root.

Now whisper, slowly and clearly: “I release you from who I wanted you to be.”

Say it again.Feel what happens inside you. The exhale, the release, the quiet shift.Because attachment isn’t to them, it’s to the potential that never came true.

3. Now picture yourself. The version of you who waited, hoped, tried harder, explained, forgave, believed the promises that weren’t kept. She’s standing there, loyal beyond reason, still trying to make sense of it all.

Now picture yourself walking up to her. Take her hand. Look her in the eye and tell her:

“You don’t have to wait anymore.”

That’s the moment your nervous system begins to let go. Then breathe out, deeply. Because your body stores grief like oxygen. The breath is what releases it.

You might cry. You might shake. You might just sit still in silence. Just know that that's not weakness, that’s your body letting go of what your heart has carried for far too long.

Here’s the beautiful science behind it: when you rewire the memory emotionally, not just intellectually, your attachment circuit breaks. That’s why you can stop longing for someone, not because the love wasn’t real, but because you finally stopped feeding the illusion.

You don’t move on by forgetting them.You move on by remembering accurately.

That’s the moment truth replaces fantasy. That’s the moment you come home to yourself.

And if this exercise feels heavy or hard to do alone, that’s okay. It means you’re human.

If you’d like someone to gently guide you through it, to help you feel safe as you release what’s been living in your body for too long, I can help you with that.Together, we can help your body believe what your mind already knows: It’s over.And you’re finally free.

If you’re ready to release who they were — and stop waiting for who they’ll never become, whisper to yourself right now:

“I’m ready to be free.”

If I have enough people interested, we could do this in a group setting. You don’t have to share anything if you don’t want to. Being in a group, via zoom, can be powerful and encouraging. I promise you, I will create a safe place for you.

Just reply “free” to this if you are ready.

Here is this week’s affirmation: I am ready to release the illusion. Isabelle

PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.

You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.