Tuesday thoughts And Your Values

Hi Friends,

I trust you saw yourself in last week’s topic on money mindset. This week let's look at our values.  

Are You Living in Alignment With Your Values—Or Just Keeping the Peace?

Midlife has a way of waking us up.

Maybe the kids are grown. Maybe your marriage has shifted—or ended. Maybe you’re just tired of pretending everything’s fine when deep down, it’s not.

Are you living a life that actually reflects your values? Or are you stuck in survival mode, doing what’s expected of you?

Let’s dive in. What Is Values-Aligned Living?

It means your actions reflect what really matters to you—not what you were taught to believe, not what others want from you, and not what keeps the peace.

It’s about living with emotional integrity.

If freedom is a value, you stop shrinking yourself to fit in. If honesty is a value, you stop saying “I’m fine” when your heart is aching. If peace is a value, you begin stepping away from emotional chaos—even when it's uncomfortable.

When your life doesn’t match your values, it shows up as resentment, confusion, burnout, or a deep sense of disconnection.

You might think:

“Why am I so exhausted?”“Why do I feel like a stranger in my own life?”

Often, the answer isn’t more effort. It’s realignment.

The Power of Boundaries in Emotional Wellness

Boundaries aren’t harsh or dramatic.They’re simply clarity with kindness—toward yourself and others.

They help you protect what’s sacred: your energy, your truth, your peace of mind.

Without boundaries, you might:

– Say yes when you mean no– Avoid conflict but feel quietly resentful– Keep relationships alive that drain or confuse you– Numb out instead of speaking up

Healthy boundaries look like:

Not explaining your “no”

Leaving conversations that feel disrespectful

Limiting access to your time or emotions when you're not available

Letting others feel disappointed without rushing in to fix it

Boundaries are not rejection—they’re self-recognition.

Try This: A Gentle Values Check-In

You don’t need to overhaul your whole life. Start with reflection.

1. Ask yourself:

– What matters most to me now—not five years ago, not before the divorce, now?– Where in my life am I betraying my own truth to keep others comfortable?– When do I feel most like me—clear, calm, grounded?

2. Spot the Disconnects

Example:Value: Emotional peaceCurrent pattern: Saying yes to family drama to avoid conflict→ Realignment might look like setting a limit or speaking a truth you've avoided.

3. Choose One Tiny Boundary

Pick one space where you’re drained. Ask:“What boundary would protect my peace here?”

Then practice saying it—to yourself first. Let it settle. Then bring it into your world.

Final Thought

You’re not selfish for wanting peace.You’re not dramatic for needing space.You’re not difficult for choosing honesty over pretending.

You’re just waking up.

Living a values-aligned life doesn’t require a breakdown or a big speech.It starts with small moments of truth—followed by brave, quiet action.

What’s one value you want to honor more this week? Drop it in the comments. Let’s hold space for it, together.

PS: Message me for a free consult to start moving toward a more confident you.

You are loved. Deeply loved. Loved beyond measure.

Until next time,

Isabelle

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